What is this loneliness ya?

Yesterday, one of my friend (not in touch with me for many days) called me up and said “ Geeta , I am feeling lonely. I am feeling very alone. Tell me what should I do?” I just gave a simple answer.”Go and make friends. You won’t feel lonely then.” Then I sat back and recalled my thoughts about loneliness which I also had experienced. I thought I should write about it today.

When I look back and recall my childhood, I always feel good about it. I know you also feel the same. When we are born, our parents rejoice and celebrate the day. They start taking care of us, loving us and giving us all that we need. As an infant we make them our best friend. They understand all that we have to say. They understand what it means when we smile and what it means when we cry.

Eventually , we start growing and we realize that apart from parents I can have others as well in my life to share my feelings, my thoughts, my happiness and my sorrow (May be even more). That is when we start making friends. We live our childhood with them. We share our secrets with them.We make them a part of our life. We laugh with them, cry with them, dine with them and hang out with them. We enjoy being with them. Don’t we? We enjoy our life!!! I have enjoyed. I know you also must have enjoyed.

Our friends are there with us in our school, in our college, in our graduation and even post graduation. We finish our schooling, graduation, post graduation enjoying our days with our friends.

And then there comes a day when we feel that we should get married now. We marry. We start living a different life. The day we marry we believe that our spouse will be our next best friend. Now we start forgetting our friends and being in touch with them. Boys have a different life to lead. So they cherish their life with both, their friends as well as their wife. But for a girl, life is different. She has changed everything, right from her name to her definition about her happiness. She engages herself with her new family, her spouse and remains happy. But one day, her spouse leaves her and goes off to another country, maybe for years, for his work. Or may be he engages himself too much with his office work and becomes a workaholic. At that time she starts feeling lonely and unhappy. She does not understand what to do? She makes efforts to keep herself happy but all in vain until one day she looks back and realizes the mistake she made. She had forgotten her friends. She never cared for them and had put them off her life.

Now she realizes what it means to be lonely. She realizes how difficult it is to stay lonely and how unhappy one can be when one feels lonely. I have experienced this feeling and therefore I could tell my friend who called me "Go and make friends." Loneliness pains. It pains a lot. So my friends, especially girls, don't forget yourself after marriage. Try to get in touch with your friends. Make real good friends. Nowadays, technology has become so advanced that you can find your friend by using it. A simple SMS may bring them back to you and you may start living your childhood again.

You won’t realize their worth until you yourself feel lonely. And the day you feel lonely, you will remember them and cry. So, let's not cry and feel lonely, let's get them back and make them a part of our life. Happy Friending!!!